Thursday, March 18, 2010

Fearless Females # 17 Social Butterfly? I Think Not!

Thank you to Lisa at The Accidental Genealogist for the great Fearless Females prompts for the month of March. Prompt # 17: Social Butterfly?  What social organizations or groups did your mother or grandmother belong to?  Sewing circle, church group, fraternal benefit society or lodge?  Describe her role in the group.

Social Butterfly?  Not my mother. Not her mother, or her mother's mother or her mother's grandmother, and not her mother's great-grandmother Those stoic women were born and bred to be loners.  Following the Trail of Tears from Tennessee, homesteading in the hills of Missouri and Oregon did not give great opportunity for socialization.  So generation to generation to generation, these were women who kept their own secrets and dreams, worked hard, raised families, but never talked much.  They did not "do" sewing circles or church groups --- even though they might quilt every evening and read the Bible.  Even when the opportunity to visit neighbors arose, these women were reticent.  If one learned from these women it was by watching and learning by how they lived their lives.  It seems to have worked well, but I don't think they had much fun.


  1. Joan, this is so true. From what I've been about to glean of my grandparents, g-grandparents, and so on the live a life of loneliness. I can't imagine that kind of life. I was so glad when I found out my g-grandmother's sister came over from Poland about the same time she did...now she had someone to commiserate with

  2. I often wonder what my gramma' would think if she were to hear me say to my friend, "You wanna' come over to my house and play for awhile?"
    I'm sure Gramma' would be scandalized at such a thought as two adult women Playing at sewing, rather than working at it.

    Come join us for a drawing. Three books to be given away. Sometimes, being a follower is the most fun.

    ~ Yaya
    Yaya's Changing World

  3. First, Joan, I want to thank you for reading my post and commenting about my great-great-grandmother, Polly. Even though she came west from Alabama with her parents, it seems she lived a very different life from that of your grandmothers. She was the one involved in all of those women's circles while helping with the business of the town.

    I do have grandmother's on the other side of my family however that did seem to live a very lonely, stoic life. Thanks for your post. I'm eager to read the one before this one. I missed it. It looks very interesting!